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Original and curated information about autism and autism-related conditions to help parents achieve best possible outcomes for their child. 

Dear Parents, take care of yourselves.

Heading into a new year

The other day, I read a Facebook post that said, “I am returning 2021 since I had a seven day grace period to return it without any questions asked.” I laughed when I read that, but it also got me thinking about how much daily stress people experience; and how they have little or no control on how it impacts their life.  

Parenting can be hard

Being a parent can certainly cause stress (oftentimes, a lot of it). I have four adult children and for a brief period of time, each of them were teenagers! I figured if I made it through their teenage years and the teenage years of my youngest child, I could make it through any period of time. But how I made it through those years often required patience, understanding, and looking to the sky and asking, why me (more times than I can probably count). Needless to say, we had our fair share of rough days, just like any family. 

Times of great stress and development often occur within families when a job is lost, when a family member’s health is impacted, and more. Certainly, our current times have brought on the likes of anxiety and depression. 

For parents of a child with autism, when you watch his or her skills and learning regress due to schools and so much being closed, it can be challenging. And helping kids through virtual learning and answering questions about when things will be normal again are stressful. And when stress or depression exists within an individual family impacted by autism, oftentimes the stress and/or depression becomes too great for a person to deal with. 

I have very good friends who are autistic and we share with each other how all this stress is getting to us. It’s tough and difficult for all of us right now . And for those of us who live in Washington, DC, we have an added layer of stress from the thought of danger and violence.  

Remembering self-care

I mention all this because when any individual finds him or herself unable to deal with their stress or depression, they should seek help.  Asking for help is okay.  I have sought help throughout my life when I needed help (you would be surprised how kindly people respond). 

When you have the flu or physical pain in your body, you call your doctor. If your car has trouble starting you take it to a mechanic to get it fixed. When your sink clogs up, you call a plumber. But, when so many of us get stressed or depressed, we often tend to not seek help.

But just as the plumber fixes the clogged sink, the mechanic fixes your car, and the doctor helps address your physical ailments, so can a professional help you with the stress and depression that’s impacting who you are. 

Getting all the help you can

MyHana was developed to help you, the parent. It provides an easy to understand curriculum to help you be a better parent. It also  provides valuable resources to help get you the answers to the questions you have. 

But please, seek help when you feel lost, depressed, or worried about too much or are too stressed. Call your local mental health association or provider.  Call 2-1-1 to find a qualified professional for help. If your stress and/or depression affects your ability to care, call an emergency hotline or the police right now. 

I always believe a beautiful rainbow comes after a difficult storm. And I believe our storm clouds are now starting to let some rays of sunshine through. That rainbow will soon be upon us. And once that happens, smiles on our faces will again appear on a regular basis. 

We are here for you. We pray for the well-being of you and your family. 

Sincerely,

 

Scott Badesch 

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